fbpx

Yes, I’m a young mom, so what?!

I thought that the stares and weird looks would pass once I turned an “appropriate” age for motherhood but unfortunately, it is still there and it is even worse now that I am expecting my third child at the age of 26!

I became a first-time mom at the age of 21, not because I accidentally fell pregnant, but because I wanted to. I got married at 20, and my husband and I have a 10-year-age gap.

young mom

There were times when I wondered how life would have been if I did not have my first child at the age of 21 – but I don’t regret anything.

I always knew that I wanted to be a mom and have a big family.

I wanted to be a young wife and a young mom. I wanted my children to grow up with me! What I did not realize is how quickly other people would judge me for doing so.

I am growing up a little alongside my children. But why is that such a tragedy? 

Firstly, I don’t understand why some women think that it is okay to voice their negative opinion about someone else’s life (can’t we all just mind our own business?) and secondly the ones that are judging me are older women who are also moms!

It is so disappointing and quite sad.

What happened to supporting each other and standing strong as a tribe?

We are living in such a negative world, a world where people think that it is okay to bully and hate one another online and offline. The sad part of it is that this is a big problem in the mom community. We are so quick to judge each other – without even trying to understand what it must be like to be in that mom’s shoes.

We forget about feelings… and the way that negative words can impact someone.

Age shouldn’t determine if you are a good mother. 

young mom

Why are we always trying to “label” ourselves in motherhood?

The young mom, the old mom, the single mom, the divorced mom etc.

Remember, we all share a common goal –  to be the best we can for our kids. We all have tiny humans at home to take care of – little people who don’t care about how old we are.

All that they care about is that MOM is there.

This pregnancy, I’ve become so emotional about this topic because I feel like a victim every time I step out of the house. All eyes on me. The “young mom” with 2 kids who is about to pop out the third!

Honestly, the comments get to me… The stares make me feel uncomfortable.

Sometimes I don’t even want to go out in public with my kids.

Why should I need to explain my story to strangers who I will most probably never see again?

I know, I shouldn’t let them affect me but I am human and there’s only a certain limit that I can take.

When people see me at the mall with my 4-year-old daughter and 20-month-old son while pregnant with my third, I get the odd looks and some even come up to me to wish me “Good luck”.

young mom

Many of them also assume that I am a single mom because I don’t wear a wedding ring on my finger.

I’ve had odd questions like… “When did you become a single mom?” or “How are you going to manage alone with 3 kids?!”

At first, I didn’t take it seriously and laughed it off but after a while, it got under my skin.

These women were serious and so curious about my life that they thought it was okay to strike up a conversation with me and ask me how old I am.

I’m a friendly person so I will not ignore someone when they talk to me but now… I feel like a smile is all that I am going to give you dear stranger.

Remember…

I am a young woman who decided to have kids – but that doesn’t mean I give you the right to judge me for it.

Young moms are doing the same as older moms. They are mothering, working, loving, and giving off the best that they can every day.

Let’s be real and celebrate each other.

I am a mom just like you.

I have made a commitment to my marriage, to my kids, and to my unborn baby while pursuing my dreams and ambitions.

I am a woman just like you, a woman gave birth to children – birthed a new life, a new identity, that changed the way I think and the way I feel.

I’m a mother just like you, a mom who loves her children with the same passion that I would have had 5 years from now. The same passion, the same worry, the same love as any other mom!

Facebook Comments
Pin117
WhatsApp
Share1
Tweet
Share900
1K Shares

Hi, I'm Shan. I'm an entrepreneur and a sucker for good adventures. I was listed in Forbes Africa 30 under 30 2019 and just recently launched my start-up – MomSays.

29 comments

  22. Copper scrap compounding C is a reddish-orange metal that is commonly found in nature. It is an excellent conductor of both heat and electricity, making it a valuable material in a wide range of applications. Here are some of the properties of copper metal: 1. High electrical conductivity: Copper is known for its exceptional electrical conductivity, second only to silver. This makes it an ideal metal for electrical wiring in homes, commercial buildings, and electrical appliances. 2. High thermal conductivity: Copper is also an excellent conductor of heat, making it useful in applications such as heat exchangers, radiators, and cooking utensils. 3. Ductility and malleability: Copper is a very ductile and malleable metal, meaning that it can be easily shaped and formed into different shapes without breaking. This makes it a popular material in the manufacturing of wires, tubes, and other products. 4. Corrosion resistance: Copper is resistant to most types of corrosion, making it durable and long-lasting. This property also makes it a useful material for plumbing pipes and fittings. 5. Antibacterial properties: Copper has natural antibacterial properties, which makes it useful in healthcare settings. Copper surfaces can help to reduce the spread of bacteria and viruses, making it a useful material for doorknobs, handrails, and other high-touch surfaces. 6. High melting point: Copper has a high melting point of 1,083В°C (1,981В°F), which makes it useful in high-temperature applications such as electric motors, generators, and transformers. 7. Good machinability: Copper is a soft metal that is easy to machine and work with. This makes it a popular material for components in the electronics and automotive industries. 8. Reflectivity: Copper has a high degree of reflectivity, making it useful for reflecting heat and light. This property is utilized in mirrors, solar panels, and heat shields. 9. Recyclability: Copper is a highly recyclable metal, and recycled copper makes up a significant portion of the world’s copper supply. This makes it an environmentally friendly material that is also cost-effective. In summary, copper metal has unique properties that make it an important material in a wide range of applications, including electrical wiring, plumbing, healthcare, manufacturing, and more. Its high conductivity, ductility, thermal conductivity, and antimicrobial properties make it an ideal material for various industries, while its high melting point and recyclability make it a valuable resource for the future Metal waste yard Copper scrap resource recovery Recycled copper raw materials Scrap copper pricing Copper scrap recycling services Metal scrap recycling center

    Reply

  23. Copper scrap auctions Copper has been used by humanity since ancient times, and today it is becoming increasingly important as a metal of the future. As technology and industry continue to grow, demand for copper is also rising, as this versatile metal is used in a wide range of products and applications. One of the key reasons for copper’s growing popularity is its excellent electrical conductivity. Copper is one of the best natural conductors of electricity, and is used extensively in electrical wiring and components. From power cables and transformers to circuit boards and motors, copper is an essential component of modern electrical systems. But copper’s usefulness extends far beyond electronics. It is also a key material in construction, where it is used for plumbing, roofing, and many other applications. Copper is highly resistant to corrosion and is often used in marine environments due to its ability to withstand saltwater exposure. Another important use for copper is in renewable energy systems. Solar panels and wind turbines both rely on copper for their electrical components, and as these technologies become more widespread, demand for copper is expected to grow significantly. In addition to its practical applications, copper has a unique aesthetic appeal. Its bright orange-red color and distinctive texture make it a popular choice for decorative objects and artwork. Despite its many uses and benefits, copper is not without its challenges. The mining and processing of copper can have significant environmental impacts, and efforts are being made to improve sustainability in this industry. Overall, however, copper’s versatility and reliability make it a metal of the future, with a role to play in powering our electronics, buildings, and transportation systems for generations to come Scrap metal reclaiming and reuse Industrial copper recovery Copper scrap reclamation services Copper scrap market Copper scrap export pricing Metal residue

    Reply

  24. Copper scrap inventory control Copper shredding technology Metal waste warehousing
    Copper cable scrap going overseas, Scrap metal repurposing services, Scrap copper prices per pound

    Metal reclaiming and recovery, Circuit board copper scrap, Recycling facilities for Copper cable scrap, Industrial metal recycling

    Reply

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *